It Could Happen to Anyone

 I never buy snacks and this is why. If I get chips or crackers or candy or any assortment of sweets, I will eat all of them faster than any other food in my cupboard. When I get them, they sit there, taunting. They're on my mind often and the temptation to eat them is very great. Occasionally, I'll feel "snackish" and I'll go open my cupboard. Sometimes I'll be strong and grab something healthy. Other times, I give in.

What do you think is the best solution for someone like me who doesn't want to eat candy or junk food on a regular basis?

There are many solutions, but perhaps the most effective one is not buying snacks altogether.

I want to talk a little bit about how to keep fidelity in a relationship. Now, I must put the disclaimer out there that I have never been married, in an engagement, or even in an exclusive relationship. That being said, I have done much research and have made numerous of my own observations as well as listened to the observations of others.

Cheating on a spouse or even someone you're committed to does not happen instantaneously. Generally speaking, a happily married person doesn't just one day have a light bulb go off and decide to make love with someone else. It's a process of letting their guard down, sharing too much information, and being overconfident about the company they are keeping. Something scary about infidelity is the fact that not many consider that it could happen to them. Not many will even entertain the thought that they themselves might cheat. Today, I want to bring up a few ways that people can keep themselves safe from this temptation.

The first protection is to never let yourself be alone with someone of the opposite sex for very long unless you are with your spouse. It may not seem harmful, but relationships in themselves are built on togetherness, time, and talking. If you are spending a lot of time with someone of the gender that you're attracted to, you are bound to build an attachment. This attachment has the potential to make you more reliant on that person for your needs.

Along these same lines, make sure interactions with people of the opposite sex or those your are attracted to do not cross a line in conversation. Since talking and getting to know someone leads to attachment, it is safer to save meaningful conversations and advice seeking for your spouse or significant other.

That leads to the next point. When difficulties arise in your marital relationship (because no marriage is perfect), do not discuss problems and frustrations with others. Not only does it put a barrier between you and your significant other, but it also bonds you to the other person. It makes it more likely that you will turn to that person for emotional support and sympathy rather than your one and only. This can very easily turn into an emotional affair which can be damaging.

Not every affair is sexual. In an emotional affair, a person depends on someone else for emotional support rather than their spouse. This is very damaging because that takes away a crucial bonding element with the other person.

As tempting as it is to complain about your husband's dirty dishes or your wife's nagging, refrain. It does no one any good to put down the one person you are supposed to be devoted to. If you have issues, then work it out with your spouse.

Just like the candy, if you set the boundaries well before the lines are crossed, you won't even have those temptations nagging you. It's a lot easier to resist candy if you have to first pay for it rather than having it right at your fingertips.

Stay protected! Things like this seem far away, but they can happen to anyone!